Place to Read the Important Information About How to be Happy October 7, 2008
Posted by janey in : achieving happiness , trackbackLife does not always give you want. And because of the lack of manifestations of their desires, many people felt empty and unhappy about life. Thus, if you want to stay happy in life, there is one thing you need to know and accomplish with ease, to love and appreciate yourself.
If you look carefully in life, it is not the lack of those materialistic things in your life that makes it miserable.
Indulging in materialistic items may seem as one of the ways to stay happy. However, you know that happiness obtained from those items is only temporary.
True and genuine happiness arises from you working inside out, not outside in. Being happy is an inner feeling and it does make sense to work out the issue from the place called ’self’.
Unhappiness usually stem out of your lack of self esteem and self appreciation. At home, your parents have taught you to appreciate others and be grateful to people who assisted you along the way. You are taught to say “Thank you” to others, present gift to others as a token of appreciation etc.
However, have you been taught how to appreciate yourself? How to acknowledge your own success and give praises to you? Do you love yourself for who you are?
To love is to accept. More often than not, we tend to choose what we want to accept about ourselves:
Talents
Strengths
Ability…
However, that is not love. Ask any parents or a couple deeply in love, they will tell you that they will accept their children or their spouse as who they are, for their strengths and weakness.
Others like you for your strengths, well your loved ones love you for your weakness.
To choose to only accept your strengths is definitely not one of the many ways to stay happy. No one can seek to be perfect in this world. In fact, it is human for you to be imperfect!
And because of lack of self love and self appreciation, it resulted in you having to seek affirmations from others by indulging yourself in the role of the victim where you will do things to:
Gain other people’s attention
Gain others’ sympathy
To affirm yourself that you are not capable or lovable…
The truth is your improvement will be much faster and greater when you focus on your successes, your wins and the things you do right rather than overly concerning yourself with your past mistakes.
Thus if you want to stay happy, stay in love with yourself!
Invest 15-30 minutes every night and review the successes you accomplish in the day. I call it the “Appreciate Self Game”.
And like all other games, this game also has its own set of rules:
Write out at least 10 accomplishments for the day
Do not repeat the accomplishments from the previous days. By not repeating your accomplishments, it forces you to be more aware of your different successes and winnings in the day.
Self appreciation and self love is not something you want to eliminate from your life if you want to stay happy, constantly.
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