Your Broken Heart Will Mend, Really July 5, 2008
Posted by janey in : anxiety self help , comments closedSweet Love Gone Sour
On impulse, you sense that love has budged to a painful disconnect when your boyfriend becomes stumpeddealing with you. So you offer to leave, and the faster you run home the better. Deep inside, you yearn for a tender arm to restrain you to stay for a little while - for another of those addictive love-making. But none is coming. Instead, your man counts the money bills in his money clip - “Do you have enough for your plane ticket?” At least, he’s making your departure from his life sure and fast.
But that is the way some love affairs end, cruelly abrupt. There is none[/spin you can do for now, but honey, you’ll survive like billions did since Eve. Time will come you’ll be shopping with your fiance for gold or leather money clips for his groomsmen and for your wedding reception. Okay, this thought is fanciful now. You would rather take care of your lovelorn heart. Bide your time, but do not forget that the sun still emits UV rays every new day.
Time To Move On
Your goodbye scene is as cool as having a root canal done by a dentist you won’t see again. Enroute to the now familiar road to Boston’s Huff Memorial Airport, your achy breaky heart is just ready to disintegrate. The heel did not even offer to hold your hand at the airport until your flight is announced. It’s time to move on - physically and emotionally.
The surefire formula to scramble out of the depression is to keep yourself busy at home, work and play. But these out-of-the-box tips can hasten your emotional recovery.
* Do not hurry to replace your ex just to show him you’re still a valuable commodity like those gold money clips.
* Hang out with friends but do not bore them with your sad story.
* Record your deep-seated emotions and listen to yourself on the micro cassette recorder repated - you’ll get bored and realize that what you’re going through isn’t a phenomenon.
* Take a break; vacation this summer with your girl pals.
* Dine on your favorite chows and exercise to the hiphop sound.
* If the emotional pain persists, see a psychiatrist to help you.
Your broken heart will heal in time, but you’ll experience bouts of hopelessness, anger, and guilt while on the mend. That’s part of the curative process. After a year or so, your heart will be fine with all the pieces in their proper places.
Social Skills Development Lessons June 22, 2008
Posted by janey in : anxiety self help , comments closedWhen I started college I was not sure what I wanted to major in for my career. I had enjoyed accounting in high school; however I thought that a career working with numbers might be dull. During my sophomore year of college my father had a heart attack and was hospitalized with open heart surgery. He had several complications and needed to be in the hospital for several weeks. My sisters all had children that they were taking care of so it was decided that I would be the one to stay with my mom at the hospital with dad. The hospital that he was staying in was seventy five miles from their home.
Being with my mom in the hospital was my first exposure to social workers. My dad had to be moved to a rehabilitation unit once he was stabilized and the social worker met with mom and me to make these arrangements. Once dad was better I met with the dean of the social work program and decided that this would be my field of study. During one of my field experience classes I volunteered at the boys and girls club. One of my duties was to teach social skills lessons to the kids that were in the after school club. These kids needed a place to stay while their parents were working. Many of them came from single parent families and they had not been taught social skills lessons at home.
When I was first asked to do this I found it quite intimidating. I was only nineteen years old and I did not have any education classes. I looked at the curriculum that they had on the subject. To my surprise the social skills lessons that they wanted me to teach were basic manners. My mother is a real stickler on manners and social graces, so I thought this would be something that I would be able to teach. I asked if I could bring in props for the lessons. I was told that I could do what ever I wanted as long as the children kept the noise level down and that they stayed in the assigned area. The social skills lessons were to be taught over a six week period of time two days each week.
The first week I had them practice shaking hands with each other and greeting each other. The next week I brought in peanut butter and crackers and had them practice table manners. The kids and I had a great deal of fun during the six week course. Teaching social skills lessons is something that I have done throughout my career as a social worker.
