Are You Always The Decorative Wall Clock In Parties? September 1, 2008
Posted by janey in : anxiety self help , comments closedWhere are the Men?
Women and young girls arepainfully conscious during socials when they are not asked to dance. Long ago, they would have been called wallflowers but with a different connotation. Wallflowers alluded to girls or women too bashful to dance. It was taboo then to dance with another girl so there was no option but to sit there like a decorative wall clock pretending to be delighted at the dance floor scene when actually she was dying with shame.
Although girl-to-girl dancing in parties and clubs is no longer a social faux pas, it is still petrifying for girls to be left at the table while everyone else is rocking or fox-trotting on the dance floor. They will not admit that they have prayed to all conceivalbe deities begging for someone to hustle them to a rhumba. Nine out of 10, they will try to lookbored stiff, which will drive the men farther away.
It is always a matter of feminine satisfaction to be chosen from a throng of beauties and asked for a dance. If you are puzzled why men bypass you for the girl behind you when you’re equally sexy or attractive, check this list out. You might get a clue to the missing link.
* You look like a sourpuss.
* You are with a troop of women.
* If you are with a friend, men will dither to ask one of you to dance.
* You are not wearing something soft to the touch, men like something silky.
* You look too eager.
* You are wearing too much jewelry.
* You are wearing double tops, men find it difficult to lead woman wearing double tops because their hands slip or slide thus hampering intricate moves.
* You are teetering on 4-inch heels shoes.
Techniques to Get Men to Dance with You
In this liberated times, women can invite men to dance with them. But there is a manner to bag a dancing partner. Of course, you don’t ask the traditional “May I have this dance?” and you do not bulldozer him with a “dance with me.”
It would be effective if you look him in the eye and pleasantly tell him you would like to dance with him. Chances are he will be flattered and acquiesce or promise you’ll he will seek you out later. The question does not force a man to say yes or no directly, saving you mortification.
A woman who got the most dances would always say hi to the men when arrives at the party. His was a subtle but successful strategy to let men know she was friendly. She also does not bother[/pin] eyeing the men at the bar - these men don’t dance. Instead, she scans the men seated near the dance floor like a [spin]row of handsome Howard Miller clocks or mantel clocks.
If you want more men to dance with you, follow those tips. You’ll be the envy of all women at the bash.
Female Ego Busters: Should You Believe Everything? September 1, 2008
Posted by janey in : anxiety self help , comments closedDon’t Let These Burst Your Bubble
It is a blatant lie that men like this and that in a woman and will not look at you twice if you lack a criterion in their checklist. That is rotten. In the first place, not all men are walking Adonises. They also have their physical and character defects, and sad to say, not all are perfect lovers.
Oftentimes, it is too late to see this. It is only after you have shopped for engravable flasks and engravable cufflinks and had your eternal love for him “etched in stone” like in those nice personalized groomsmen gifts, that his eyes start to roam, and you begin wondering if the myths are true.
Here are the general ego busters to bust:
* All men are attracted to reed-thin women with healthy front acts. This is the most ego-deflating of all myths, particularly if you are heavy on the bottom with little to be proud of upfront. Do not sweat, majority of men like wide bottoms, so there is hope.
* Men do not like intelligent women. This is another fallacy to expose. Men adore smart women too. So drop that dumb Dora act when he is around.
* The way to man’s heart is through his stomach. Woe to you if you cannot dish up a simple omelet. But what are fast-food chains for? If he does not how to boil an egg, he should not be demanding of your cooking talent.
* Men can only love young women. It has been proven many times that young men are attracted to older women too. Examples? Demi Moore (42) and Ashton Kutcher (27), and Jane Felix Browne (52) and Omar Osama bin Laden (22). Is this not wonderful?
* Men like blue-eyed-blonde-haired women best. Well, they cannot always have their cake and eat it too. Blue-eyed blondes are attractive but there are brunettes, red-heads, and black-haired beauties who can turn heads.
* Men like women to be subservient slaves and clinging vines. Men are easily bored with yes-women. They want women to have spunk and daring. They are easily bored with women who cannot decide for themselves.
* Women who can pick a lock are no-nos. Why should men have sole license to pick locks, mend doors, and repair the sink? Secretly men are pleased as Punch that women can fend for themselves. So show off your skills if you can.
Debunking these myths can save your sanity and future romance. Be a woman of your own worth. Be confident with your weight, your height, and your flaws. This self confidence will ooze through your pores. Always remember the following things: men like the soft skin of women, their scent, the way they walk, and the way they laugh.
Regardless of what they say, true love cannot be deliberately planned. It just happens and when it does, it defies all myths. No, do not trust everything
you hear. That guy could fall for you. You could sing the movie theme song of Carrie - “I never dreamed someone like you could love someone like me” like there is no tomorrow.
