Boost Self Esteem and see your Dreams Happen April 26, 2008
Posted by janey in : self esteem , comments closedAs children, we often told people what we wanted to be when we grew up. What happens, then, when we’re grown up and we’re no where near where we want to be? Are we failures? No, of course not. It could be, however, that we just suffer from low self esteem. Most people don’t become who they want to be because they don’t feel as though they’re good enough to get there. To become who you want to be, it’s important to build self esteem so that we can attain whatever goals we set before ourselves. The first step to building your self esteem, then, is to set small goals and achieve them.
If you always wanted to be a lawyer, and you’re a cashier in the supermarket, all hope is not lost. You might think that becoming a lawyer now is impossible, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. What you need to do is build your self esteem and start achieving small goals until you reach your main one of becoming a lawyer. Your first goal then, and the one you’ll use to increase self confidence, is to enrol in classes.
In keeping with the above example, you’ll first finish college to build self esteem, . It may take a long time but you’ll set smaller goals until you reach the bigger one of getting your college degree. Smaller goals to increase self confidence 1might be getting all A’s every semester, or getting good grades on smaller tests. The main thing to keep in mind is not to overwhelm yourself by concentrating on the bigger goals. Set and attain the smaller ones and you’ll see that this will do a great job of self esteem, .
Make a list of these goals to increase self confidence. Whenever you achieve a goal, cross it off your list and move onto the next one. Just make sure you break your bigger goals into smaller, more manageable goals.
Eventually, you’ll see that your list is getting smaller and smaller. If you keep to this, and you work constantly on building self esteem, you’ll see that in no time you’ll be much closer to completing your bigger goal. Writing goals down and crossing them off when you have attained them will give you a great sense of accomplishment.
Why It’s Worth Fighting Your Dragons And Start Public Speaking! August 16, 2007
Posted by janey in : self esteem , comments closedEveryone hears about being nervous when speaking, and when you overcome it, you become confident and very successful. What you don’t hear from successful speakers is about the journey itself. For example, when I started in the field of speaking, I was a corporate employee. As a project engineer, I had to develop concepts and designs to solve problems within the plant. I was good at this and yet my career progress was slow because I simply couldn’t speak well, and I needed to present my proposals to obtain funding. I would become nervous, tongue tied and confused.
So when I started my Public Speaking career I was so scared and terrified, that even the thought of being in front of a group of people, made me feel physically sick, and would make my heart race so much, I thought I was having a heart attack. Clearly, I didn’t want to go through my life like that so I did some training and got ready for my Maiden speech. With this speech I was competing for a prestigious Silver Cup and I was excited because I thought I was going to win it. I walked out onto the stage in front of 200 people and arrived at the podium. Suddenly my legs started to shake so much I thought I was going to fall down. So I grabbed the lectern, which also began to shake, and then, at that moment, the butterflies in my stomach turned into dive-bombers and I started to feel sick. While shaking the lectern so much, I watched with horror, as my notes slid onto the floor. In total confusion now, I decide to start my speech without picking up the notes. My voice quavered as I stated my name, and then my mind went completely blank. After what seemed an eternity, I grabbed my notes from the floor and fled the stage.
All I achieved that day was to let people know who I was and that I was one pathetic speaker. Needless to say, I didn’t get the prize or even a polite or sympathetic applause from the audience. It was such a horrifying experience that I had to make a decision to quit or do something about it. (I was unable to get into the witness protection program to lose my identity!)
