I Have To Get Rid Of This Wedding Stress Rather Than I Lose My Mind! October 6, 2009
Posted by janey in : stress management , comments closedWedding are such a wonderful part of life. Most little girls and boys dream of their future spouse and of that very special day. Now it has happened. You’re getting married and you are overjoyed with the prospect of the wonderful life ahead of you! Then, suddenly, reality kicks in and you find yourself in the middle of one of the most stressful situations you’ve ever encountered in your life. What happened? How could such a wonderful moment turn into such stress? And if you’re thinking about a beach wedding, don’t even go there, because then you’ll be thinking about getting the perfect discount wedding favors.
I’ve planned and consulted on more weddings than I care to admit. And with all of them, I’ve found that the following tips will greatly help you navigate through the sometimes muddy waters of wedding planning as well as through the waters of finding amazing beach wedding favors.
Who do you invite to the wedding? Be very careful with your wedding invitation list. This is one of the major points of contention between the bride and groom’s family. If from the beginning you both decide that you are only going to invite those people that are special to each of you, you will circumvent much stress. Extra tip: stick to your guns! Another tip: give your guests unique wedding favors. They always love them!
Choose your wedding party wisely. Do not worry about hurting anyone’s feelings when you and your future spouse make this decision. If you don’t choose wisely, you will end up with a great deal of stress and end up losing friends. And if there are too many people to choose from and you can feel problems brewing, limit yourself to a maid of honor (or two) and a best man (or two) and call it a day. You’ll thank me for it.
Enlist people to help you. Don’t try to do everything yourself. Yes, you and your future spouse should be the decision-makers, but ask close family and friends to carry out tasks for you, especially ones that are easy and do not need your oversight. This alone will spare you much anxiety. So rule 3, do not be a micro-manager. Let others sweat the small stuff!
If you can afford it, hire a wedding planner! You have no idea how much stress a planner can alleviate from the wedding. They do all the scurrying around and you make all the decisions. Yes, this will add probably 5-10% on your wedding budget, but if you can afford one, by all means do it. Also, you always can use the wedding planner as the resident scape-goat when you want something and others disagree. They are amazing to have in your corner during this stressful time.
Trust your own judgment when making decisions. This is not a time to be concerned about others feelings and fulfilling what they want for your wedding. If you allow others to influence your decisions about your day, you will only grow to resent it and them. Be especially careful with this. Be nice, but remember, it is your day.
When all else fails, just get away for the day. Different surroundings bring a different perspective. Just remember, this is your day. Do everything you can to keep it special during the wedding process. And just remember, you’ll make it and it will be wonderful.
What Are So Many of the Stressful Situations That Can Take Place During Your Special Wedding Planning? September 23, 2009
Posted by janey in : stress management , comments closedIt’s supposed to be the most special day of your life! Buying a wedding dress, wedding cake, and those cute edible wedding favors But, for so many people, it’s one of the most stressful days of your life! And considering, for many, it only happens once, that is such a shame. So, how can you keep your stress levels down to a dull roar? Read on. Hopefully, I will enlighten you and you will actually enjoy one of the most important days you’ll ever have.
Let’s first look at the life events which cause high stress levels. This is a point system, out of 100 points, with the higher the number, the more stressful the situation is: Death of spouse - 100, Divorce - 75, Marital separation - 65, Jail term - 60, Death of a close friend or relative - 60, Personal injury or illness - 55, Marriage / partnership commitment - 50, Loss of job - 45, Change of job - 35, Taking out a mortgage or loan - 30, Mortgage foreclosure - 30, Fight with in-laws – 25.
Recognizing the above situations do cause stress, is the first healthy step toward alleviating it. During the time preceding a wedding, couples feel they are getting ‘cold feet’ when in fact, it is just a great deal of stress that is affecting both future bride and groom.
So, what are some of the signs of stress? Headache or migraine, insomnia, irritability, mood swings and stomach pains. Now that you recognize your ailments as being stress, you can find answers, and there are many which will help. If you do work out – this has been known to bring stress levels down psychologically and physiologically.
Don’t put so much pressure on yourselves to have the perfect wedding. Life happens, including during your wedding day. Settle it. Things will not go perfectly. If you can accept that, your stress levels will lower greatly. Time management – Allowing yourselves enough time to take care of all of your wedding responsibilities will help with stress.
Rushing and feeling behind in time, is one of the most common reasons the happy couple lose their joy. Make sure that during the heavy duty planning of your wedding, that you take time for each other and make sure to get inexpensive wedding favors. Go away, even if it’s just for the day. Stay in Budget! Finances is one of the major reasons for soaring stress levels. Do not add those extra flowers – the extra limo – that extra appetizer. Your body will thank you for it. Do a dry run – You will feel so much better if you do. Have the chef prepare a dish for you, or visit the restaurant where the wedding will be. Make sure you have your hairdresser do your hair and make-up (if using one) a week before your wedding day. Go hear your band or DJ, etc. And if it is a seasonal wedding, don’t forget those winter wedding favors. You will feel so much better. But, if you must, stress out a bit – scream – yell – throw something. There now, do you feel better. Okay, you got that out of the way. Now do what I say above and you may actually enjoy your own wedding day!
