Being Nonjudgmental is easy May 22, 2008Posted by janey in : visualization , comments closed
It is a very cumbersome burden and an impossible task to attempt to change someone else. Any person can make changes and adjustments in their behaviors; however, it must come from within them.
Even though we each tend to think that our own characteristics and behaviors are those that other people should measure up to, if the truth were known and other minds could be read, we would each, undoubtedly, discover that other people in our lives may be just as irritated and annoyed with certain of our characteristics and behaviors as we are with theirs.
We expect others to accept us just the way we are, even though we may or may not be aware that certain of our behaviors and characteristics annoy other people around us from time to time. We recognize and accept our own uniqueness and will find life to be much easier if we accept the uniqueness and differences of others as well.
Holding onto judgmental feelings which cause us to become irritated or angry at others is unhealthy physically and mentally. It serves no worthwhile purpose and only alienates the possibility of coming to an understanding of one another. It is good that we are different. The differences that exist in humans is displayed in the seeds of creativity and changes that make the world interesting and continuously new.
Instead of reacting with judgment and anger, it is far better, whenever possible, to attempt to open communication and get to know from a deeper level the source and reasoning behind someone else’s behaviors. This communication, however, must be done without judgement, because behaving or speaking from a judgmental viewpoint anywhere in the communication will defeat the purpose. The Work
So relax, develop a sense of humor about the differences, learn to appreciate the positive aspects, and above all, know that you are not responsible for their behaviors and must not attempt to make yourself responsible. You are ok, and they are ok.