Tips To Build- On Self Esteem August 5, 2008
Posted by janey in : self esteem , trackbackIn a nutshell, if we look at it from another perspective, it’s the inability for an individual to have esteem for themselves i.e. to like, to love and to honor themselves. As you are likely aware, an inability to like one’s self often is rooted in feelings of unworthiness and these are rooted in deeper feelings of “being bad”. Going further, feelings (and beliefs) of being bad stem from stored memories of negative events that occurred to you earlier in your life. Such memories are always with you either consciously and more often unconsciously. Their effect apart from contributing to negative feelings about one’s self is that they cause you to, unwittingly sabotage yourself from ever achieving real success in your life. For instance have you ever noticed how, no matter how hard you try; good things always appear to happen to others and not to you? This is no co-incidence, it’s because you may be carrying these negative memories that have literally “programmed” you for failure.
Much of the angst in our culture is because so many women feel unacceptable the way they are. We diet, we control, we lose control, we feel bad about ourselves and we start all over again. The process of change is doomed if the motivation is negative. True change flows when we love and accept ourselves while creating a vision of the life we really want. Here are 5 Keys to creating lasting, joyful change. By keeping your focus on loving, respecting and accepting yourself, your change is sure to flow with grace and ease. 1. Make peace with where you are today * you are exactly where you are supposed to be * spending energy feeling negative is too high a price to pay * big deal if you need to fix anything, put on your ‘I’m a big girl now’ attitude and decide to do it. 2. Make a commitment to doing your personal inner work on a regular basis * Deliberate (intentional, and planned * Diligent (conscientious and meticulous) * Determined (resolved, committed) 3. Decide that you deserve to be happy, and nothing is more important * Joyful change comes from focusing on a positive vision * Nothing is more important than feeling good * Keep your focus on what you want to bring into your life. 4. The easiest way to predict the future is to create it. * Your thoughts create your reality. Choose thoughts that support your vision. * If you always think what you always thought, you will always get what you always got * Make your positive vision for your future your top priority. 5. Identify your stumbling blocks * The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior * Be honest about what usually trips you up * Make a contingency plan to redirect your focus.
People who feel good about themselves are more likely to engage in conduct which is in their own interest, but those who suffer from low self-esteem often see themselves as unlikable and unattractive to others. The development of high self-esteem begins at birth and is heavily influenced by the reactions and responses of other significant. A positive self-esteem is reflected in an upbeat, outgoing personality, while the negative self-esteem often leads to failure, an inability to interact properly with others.
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